trace_of_scarlet

Question for the flist! Because I have no idea whatsoever.

Given that I am the cis-iest of the cisgendered and want to write a transgendered character, I am very conscious of Not Wanting To Get This Wrong. I can research all the 'hard facts' easily enough, but do you have any suggestions for somewhere to ask about things like 'if I post in with Kim's teenaged, pre-transitioned self, who uses male pronouns, is it acceptable to use male pronouns in the narration as well at that point?'. I have no idea where these sorts of questions would be acceptable, have no intention of asking my transgendered friends outright (on the grounds that it's not their jobs to educate me just because I'm their friend), and asking somewhere like a trans*-related post at ontd_political or similar screams of derailing.

Currently, I am looking at just doing my best with what I'm unsure of and including in Kim's user info something along the lines of 'Kim's mun is cisgendered and is doing her best not to screw up. Please don't hesitate to tell me if you think I'm failing in this.'

But otherwise, dearest flist, I come to you. Any ideas?